Losing an adventure buddy. Farewell little Axel Charrette.

I’ve had writers block before, but nothing like this.

I’ve mentioned Jen on this blog before. I’ve never physically met her, but from the moment I started following her blog I knew she was someone I’d love to be neighbors with. I had to be content to just follow her blog periodically, keep tabs on her families biking adventures, and occasionally shoot her an email when I needed biking advice.

Jen and her family have been living, playing, and working in Mexico for the last few months. They’ve been having fabulous adventures with their kids. Biking, surfing, relaxing and enjoying being together.

All this came to a screeching halt two weeks ago. Her youngest boy is gone. Forever. And I feel like I’ve lost one of my own. The online world is a weird one. Strange how you can let yourself be so vested in the life of someone else. What do you say to a Mom who’s lost their child? I could hardly bring myself to speak the news out loud to my husband.

Jen, Randy, and Kalden, my heart aches for you. It aches for Axel. It aches for the life that won’t be lived. It aches for the horror that exists in our world. I know that the way I feel is 0.000001% of how Axel’s family feels right now, and that makes my heart ache even more. And it is desperately looking for solace somewhere. I find it by hanging onto the conviction that there is more happiness, and peace, and love in this world than hatred and grief.

Today is Axels memorial service, so in memory of him, let’s make the world a more delightful place today. Hug a child a little longer. Take a moment for rapture, and be grateful for those things that bring joy to your world. Do something to make this world a better place.

And if you can, donate to the Axel Charrette Fund–in memory of this little boy, and to counteract a little of the loathsome events of the last two weeks. The money will be used to offset funeral costs, and all extra will go towards helping more kids get out on bikes. They want to be able to share his passion with others in his memory.

To donate, write a check to the Axel Charrette Fund, and send it to: The Axel Charrette Fund, c/o Alpine Bank, 119 Liddell Drive, Ridgway, CO 81432.

Jen’s also been nominated as one of the Top 25 Outdoorsy Moms and Circle of Moms. I know that winning this award is probably pretty low on her list of priorities right now. But I also can’t think of anyone more deserving. You can vote for Jen everyday, so if you get the chance, do it.

Let’s send Jen and her family all the love we can.

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  1. Your post completely articulates how I felt when reading the news. I still think about it everday since finding out and every time I look at my two year old daughter. My heart hurts so much for Jen and her family. I’ve struggled with whether to say something on my blog but couldn’t find the right words to do so. I’m glad you did. I hope that Jen and her family find the strength to get through today and all the days after this.

    Thank you for writing this.


    • Thanks for the comment Sandra, and for sharing my words. They have been so strong through this too! It’s quite amazing. Such a great family.

  2. […] Lindsey wrote the post I wanted to write but could not find the words to do so. I’m going to let her post speak on my behalf and ask you to spend a little longer hugging your loved ones today. […]

  3. kdog

    that makes my heart hurt. :(

  4. Melissa

    I had not heard about this until just now reading it on your blog. What a horrible thing to happen to such a darling little boy. I’m sorry that the little boy and his family had to go throug this. I will definitely be praying for them.

    • Thanks Melissa. I’m sure your prayers would be much appreciated.

  5. Allison

    I haven’t been able to stop thinking about Jen, Randy, Kalden and Axel since I saw your post yesterday. They are in my every thought and my prayers. With a 3 year old and 1 year old and our families’ love of biking together, I look up to the Charrettes and their adventures. I just can’t understand this tragedy. Thank you for your beautiful words.

    • Allison – Thanks for your thoughts and prayers on their behalf. I know Jen has said she feels everyones love, I’m sure yours is included!

  6. Oh my. :( This is horrible. I do know what you mean about feeling a kindredness with other online bloggers so I can only imagine my thoughts if something similar happened to anyone else I read. *heavy heart*.

  7. I can’t even begin to comprehend this awful tragedy. The sick feeling in my stomach, the heavy heart for this young family…no words to express these emotions. My prayers go out to this family.


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