Joe and I have outdoor recreational hobbies that often don’t work very well with kids; hobbies we’re not really interested in giving up. Yes, it is easy, important, andÂ wonderfulÂ to share your hobbies with your kids. But let’s be honest. Biking down a dirt road with a double-wide trailer is just not the same as flying down a single track, especially with your better half eating your dust.
Usually, if Joe and I want to do something that’s notÂ exactlyÂ child friendly we 1) figure out a way to water it down and take them, or 2) forget that and just take turns (and by “not exactly childÂ friendly” I don’t mean heading to an adult venue in downtown Reno).
For example: I’ll find a cool new trail, speed hike it, come home, map it out for Joe, he’ll run the trail, we’ll reconvene, share our thoughts on favorite scenic outposts, talk about other possible trails, estimate our distances, compare times, and swap more stories. All over smoothies and Google Earth, of course. It’s almost like… a post adventure mini date?
We’ve just sort of gotten use to this way of life. I married my favorite adventure buddy, but don’t get the chance to adventure with him much anymore (sans kids anyway).Â We don’t live close to family, don’t know anyone of “babysitting” age and Isacc’s afraid of people (just like Ari was when he was younger). I just can’t leave my kids screaming. (I know, I know! I hear they calm down, but I just can’t do it.)
Thankfully, Isaac is growing out of this stage. So last week we left our kids with a friend. A friend Isaac loves! I was nervous, but he did great! We officially went onÂ our 5th date. Well, our 5th date since the birth of our first child nearly 5 years ago.
We hit up a mountain bike trail near town. After mile one Joe said to me:
“Do you mind if I pass you on the uphill? It’s hard for me to go this slow.”
I laughed. WeÂ definitelyÂ would have had more conversation in front of Google Earth, where we were both going the same speed. Maybe next time we’ll try a different sport. Or maybe a trail that’s not quite as steep… Humm
How do the rest of you do it? Do you manage to still get out on your favorite pre-child adventures with your significant other? Â Most importantly, I need ideas for our next date…
Full Disclosure: Joe mountain bikes on a singe speed, i.e., he can’t throw it into a lower gear and slowly climb hills. He has to keep pedaling. Hard. However, in true political fashion I like toÂ omitÂ this key fact from the story.